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Saturday, February 19, 2005

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It is strange being the official spokesperson for the family. I have been put in charge of telling people Mom has cancer. All reactions are the same. A moment of silence. Followed by a "On no." I go on to explain what is going on and they try to follow. I explain what she has working in her favour but damn...it is cancer. There is nothing good about it. I try to appear positive and upbeat by my heart betrays me. I tell them she is scheduled for surgery on Thursday. They ask me to keep them updated. I tell them I will let them know by e mail. My excuse is that I just don't have the time with work, the kids and all but the reality is I hate having to tell people and have to pretend everything is ok.
Everyone sends their best wishes. Let them know if we need anything. It is all to surreal.

11 Comments:

Blogger deni said...

Just take one day at a time, and remember to take a few minutes of time for yourself to recoup.

*hugs*

5:21 PM  
Anonymous Chelle said...

That must be incredibly hard to do, be the bearer of bad news. Try to be optimistic.

There's a book "When bad things happen to good people" by Harold Kushner that may help you.

My prayers are with your Mom, you and your family.

7:28 PM  
Blogger lamberrymer said...

stay strong - we had to go through it with my dad & he pulled through and has been cancer-free for a couple of years.

it was one of the hardest points in my life.. but all i could do was have faith..

you & your family can get through it, just believe that.

7:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry and it must be incredible hard to be the spokesperson.
I'm just so sorry I don't know what to say.

Kat

7:51 PM  
Blogger Busy Mom said...

I have another blog that I have given out to friends and fmaily where I post updates about my mom, it has been helpful and they can leave her messages. You might think about it, especialy after surgery.

7:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know exactly what you are going through, my dad lost a 4 year battle of lung cancer two years ago. I would say if you believe in god then you and your mom should both pray.

7:59 PM  
Blogger Bumbling Bav said...

Man, that is one hard job you have been handed!

I just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you and your mom! My heart just cries for you both.

Andrea

There is nothing I can say that sounds right other than ..... THIS FRIGGEN SUCKS!

8:05 PM  
Blogger David said...

Just the word Cancer strikes fear in people's hearts. It takes a few minutes for those feelings to register and many still don't know what to say.

Just tell them you are taking a positive approach to handling the problem and you need their prayers.

Keep your chin up.
David http://txoceanlover.blogspot.com/

7:40 AM  
Blogger Keri said...

I came here from Busy Mom's blog. First of all, I'm adding your Mom to my list of inspirations (If I had her first name, that would be cool - why don't you come and visit my blog and see what I'm all about? or e-mail me if you like)...

Secondly, if you would prefer, rather than use your blog for it, www.caringbridge.org is all about spreading the word for exactly this purpose and you can put photos there, too. Check that out if you like. Just some info.... Prayers coming for you and your Mom and your family, too...

7:41 AM  
Blogger wanda said...

First let me say, I'm so sorry. I know you had feared this from the beginning. I can only imagine what you are going through. I will pray for you to have the strength to get through this.
Sometimes keeping busy, helps us to deal with these kinds of situations. You don't have too much time to dwell on the negative. Which is good. But don't get so busy that you fail to take care of yourself and deal with the emotions your feeling. Your family is leaning on you, so you feel like you need to be strong, for them. Still sometimes you are going to need time alone. To think, to cry, to breathe. Even a tower of strength needs to be shorred up occasionally.

8:05 AM  
Blogger pinksundrops said...

I'm so sorry that it is yourss to be the one to tell everybody. You are doing the right thing by communicating via email. You don't need to deal with any more pain than your own that you are going through right now.

10:44 AM  

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