and I had been talking about possibly working it out but the plot thickens. is going to Vancouver this weekend to see a woman. He says she is just a friend. I do believe him because I know he was friends with her long before we met but that is just the thing. It was before we met. We are a couple and there is no excuse for taking a whole weekend off to go see a person of the opposite s#x. Jealous? No. I just know what is acceptable and not acceptable to me in a relationship and that is not acceptable. I know in today's liberal relationships going out and even having s#x when you are in a committed relationship is ok but I am unable to see this as tolerable. I don't see us working this out at all with this new development. I am not going to give him an ultimatum because I feel in an adult relationship one is not needed. He knows how I feel. If he goes it will be over with no chance of reconciliation. Curious on everyone else's opinion on this issue. Don't tell me what you think I want to hear, tell me what you believe.