Margaret said..."he was so *not* *in love* with me.

Has anyone else been a victim of this circumstance? I have! It is a terrible feeling to feel love and not have it returned. The ex-boyfriend I spoke of in the last post is a great example. At the time I thought I was in love with him. Now I look back and wonder where my head (or heart?) was! I was crazy about him at the time. He treated me like no man had ever treated me before. He wined and dined me. He took me to the theatre and made me dinners. He took me to expensive resorts and treated me like a queen. I felt love. Or was it?

In the end he broke up with me because he and his ex-girlfriend decided that they were still in love. (They moved in together and eventually married.) I was devastated. I cried for about a month. I could not stop thinking about him and wondered how I could go on without him.

Now, over 3 years later I know it was not love I felt. I was infatuated! I admit, even now, that I cared for him greatly and still do. I hope that he is blissfully happy. But it wasn't love. But at the time I thought it was and I knew he did not feel it for me. I also knew there was nothing I could do to change his feelings. What could I do but wait it out and just enjoy the ride?

I am glad it ended when and the way it did for I am a stronger and (I hope) a more wise woman.

So tell me. Have you ever been in love and the feelings not reciprocated?