The post in which I complain and whine.I read in a book last night that complaining is part of being human. (";and thus was ever on their lips the countrymen's perpetual lament, so reasonable to the ear, but which recurs unfailingly: ")
I am so tired of the sameness of everything. I don't have anything to look forward to. I think if I were completely honest with myself I would admit that I am lonely. I miss the companionship of a man however I am not willing to be with just any man. I want to be in love. My problem is that I simply don't have time to even try dating. Between working 40 - 50 hours a week and being a mom there isn't time. The only night I have to myself is one or two Wednesday evenings a month when my kids are at their dad's.
I guess I am just tired and need some time to refresh but I just can't seem to slow down.
posted by BarbaraMG at Sunday, August 27, 2006
8 Comments:
Thanks for the kind comments on my whiney post! Complaining certainly is part of being human and somehow makes one feel just a bit better to get it out. It's good that you are picky about having a relationship. A bad relationship is much much worse than having none at all!
It's good to let it all out on your blog. Being lonely isn't nice, but a lot of us understand just how that feels. And of course you're busy and dating is hard enough when you're not busy!
I guess you can still take time-out to breathe and re-coup. Just in smaller chunks. Even five minutes of closed-eye reflection and forced unwinding feels good.
You've been through a lot lately, Barbara.
You know, maybe Mr Right is just in the wings. You'll make it happen somehow.
Kudos to you for recognizing you needed a good whine. Get it of yur chest, thats it! I am sorry you feel lonely, and that perfectly understandable. But hurray to the strength you have to keep on without a man. You have discovered that you CAN do it alone. Now when you do meet a fellow, it can be because you like him, not beause he is a man who can "help" you. Too many women fall into that.
Hello Barbara, I dont think that is complaining. I am sorry you are lonely. I too have felt that loneliness for the past year and a half. It's tough when you go places that everyone seems to have someone and it's so hard to see that. The ache is real and raw and the loneliness could eat us alive. As people keep telling me on my blog it will happen when it's supposed to happen. (I guess!) But I'm an impatient person. So you go on complaining and I'll go on being impatient. lol
Okay, you've gotta find a great sitter that your kids have fun with and get yourself out on dates, girl! It's hard not to let yourself get so busy with work and kids that you forget to nurture the woman in you. If you're feeling the pull to find a companion, you should get out there and have some fun! Just remember, dating is like second hand shopping...You have to sift through alot of "questionable" goods to find the treasures. Oh, and the return policy sucks, too! tee hee
I don't see this post as complaining. Being lonely is pretty common.
When I feel lonely I just pretend I'm a pirate looking for buried treasure. All by myself. It doesn't take away the loneliness but it is helping my psychiatrist pay for his daughters braces..
YOu know maybe those Wednesday nights you have to yourself would be a great time to invest in a hobby. Maybe making jewelry or writing that book you always wanted to write or just going out to some place and meeting some people other then those you know from work.....
The older I get, the less time I find I have.
Some days, I find myself wistfully wondering what it will be like when the kids are out of the house, I am retired (I hope) and finally able to enjoy life.
A friend of mine, who is 50, and whose kids are now in university, seems to finally have some time for herself to do things like ... organize stuff from 15 years ago.
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