I often have the "Life's Not Fair" discussion with my kids. After school today I rallied the kids to help with unloading the dishwasher, folding and putting away laundry, vacuuming and tidying the living room.
After an hour of work The Discussion started.
Boy W - "I am tired. I want to go watch a video."
Me - "The house is a mess and it needs to be cleaned up."
Boy W- "But I already unloaded the dishwasher and folded laundry."
Me - "You are not done yet. You need to go clean up around the hamster's cage. It is a mess."
Boy - "But that's not fair!"
Me - "Whoever said life would be fair Boy W? The hamster belongs to you! How is it not fair? Who else should be cleaning the mess?"
Boy W- "The hamster?"
I got the above picture off the net. It came off a parenting site that said to ask your kids what they think is fair when the, "It's not fair" discussion comes up. Sorry to all you parenting experts out there but give it up. Life isn't fair. No boss in the world is going to deal with your child this way and you are not doing them any favours by discussing things.
Yup. Life isn't fair and best to teach them when they are young to suck it up and deal with it. The best way to be happy in this life is not to avoid the bumps along the way buy learn how to ride over them and still do your best. It is crap parenting like this that makes kids unable to deal with the real world.